WHY we get so stressed

What causes your stress? What is the greatest stress factor in your life? To know how to deal with your stress, you must first identify its cause.

Some of the most prominent stress-inducers:


Anxiety is based on uncertainty about the future. Some people are anxious and worried about what will happen to them because they feel they are not in control of their lives or a particular situation. It has been said that this generation is living in the era of anxiolytics- mediations that block anxiety- because many people are resorting to medicine and treatments to control their apprehensions and worries.


In addition to anxiety, outright fear can cause people to experience the effects of stress. When we cannot seem to find a way out of a problem or situation for ourselves, our family, our finances, our work, or another area of our lives, we become distressed.

Unrealistic expectations and excessive responsibilities:

Another cause of stress is when we experience a discrepancy between our expectations of a situation and the reality of that situation. Whenever people are not willing to either give up excess responsibilities or delegate them to others, creating stress in their lives. Overcommitment is often the result of making a bad decision or an inability to say no when people ask us to do something. You must decide what is most important or urgent in your life right now and focus on that, putting everything else aside.

Work pressures and Family Issues:

Relationships can be a major source of stress – coming from break-ups or problems that come from extended family members. Perpetual stress within families can cause a breakdown of relationships and an absence of peace and order in the household. The family can become dysfunctional, bringing serious consequences such as hurtful arguments, jealousy, and divorce. A chronically stressed person can create a toxic environment for the people around them- at home, at work, in the community and elsewhere- as they emanate anxiety, depression, bitterness, and other negative emotions.

Insufficient sleep:

How many hours of sleep do you get on average? Research indicates that people do not get the recommended seven hours of sleep at night and three quarters of those who suffer from depression also suffer from a lack of sleep. Lack of sleep is linked to health problems such as obesity, depression, and anxiety. What are the reasons for this lack of sleep? Sometimes people are overcommitted, too busy and do not allow themselves a proper night’s rest. Others suffer from insomnia for mental, emotional, or physical reasons, and sleeplessness becomes a real torment to them. They cannot fall asleep or stay asleep for long and such conditions causes stress for people not only because they experience worry and fatigue, but also because they are unable to function well during the day, leading to further issues and consequences.

Other causes:

  • Often stress is of our own doing – by making wrong and hasty decisions we bring the stress of painful consequences upon us.
  • Stress comes when we fail to trust in our Creator for help.
  • Change produces stress.
  • Laziness and poor planning cause stress.
  • Leadership causes stress.
  • Making mistakes causes stress.
  • Working against the clock causes stress.

Stress manifest different in each person.

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